Taking responsibilty for your mind

Hello there my lovelies, 

Here we go again with another instalment of the inner workings of my mind. 

Rather than being a grump, I'm going to tell you about one of the most enlightening things I have been taught. There's a really powerful message in this, and without wanting to sound all spiritual and airy fairy, I really think that we could all take something from this and use it in our lives...

As with any of my posts, I like to hear what you wonderful people think about it. If you disagree with me, that's cool, it's better to own an opinion of your own than to be a sheep who follows. If you agree, I hope you can use it to make your life a little lighter. 

A few years ago I had the absolute pleasure of being taught by one of the most amazing and inspirational people I have ever come across. As well as teaching us what we had signed up to learn, Counselling For Beginners, she taught us how to get in touch with ourselves, check out our feelings and the amazing power of insight into our own minds. I think we all came away with much more than what we had paid for. 

One of the greatest things she taught me, the one that really sticks out in my mind, is that no one can make you feel anything. Have a good look around your body, is there a big red button? Is there an emotional switch? No? Can't see one can you. That's because there isn't any part of you that can be controlled by another person. Nobody else can even see your mind, so for them to be able to reach into it and affect what happens in there would be nothing short of a miracle. 

Now, I know what I'm referring to is physically impossible. Talking about our physical attributes and looking for an actual button seems a bit silly doesn't it. We know there is nothing there. You're probably thinking, yeah but, some people just pee me off. Or, yeah but what he/she said really upset me. Some people go as far as to say that we are responsible for protecting the feelings of others that we come into contact with. Fine, if that's what you want to believe, go ahead. But please think about what I have to say before making your mind up. 

Going back to the silly, physical side of things. Yes, of course no one can stick their hand into your brain, jumble things around and alter what goes on. So, can they do this metaphorically? (ooh, nice big word for sunny Tuesday) I personally don't believe they can. I truly believe that not one person can alter your feelings, emotions or thoughts without your permission. 

Quite a bold thing to come out with isn't it?

What about when someone says that your hair looks crap? You feel hurt or offended.

What about when you get dumped? You feel hurt, lonely, sad, even depressed.

What about when you hear of the distress of a loved one? You feel bad for them. You might feel angry on their behalf. 

Yes, I'm not denying that these feelings are very real and they may be all consuming for a period of time in your life. However, you allow yourself to feel that way. It might feel as though you cannot help it, you cannot pull yourself out of the emotional black hole, the world is against you and it's never going to get better. 

Actually, you are the only person who can help you. Others might support you in getting the light back in your life, but it's only you who can allow what goes on in your head. 

There are  going to be people who snigger at this and there are going to be people who ask me about all the times I've been down, upset, hurt etc. Well, I am human, I do have these feelings too, but now that I know I'm the only one who controls this, it makes it a hell of a lot easier to deal with. 

So please, next time you feel that someone has pushed your button, look for that button and when you can't find it, remind yourself of who is the ruler of your mind. 

Do you choose to let someone define you? Do you choose to let someone affect your day? 

Whenever life throws you a hurdle that's to high to jump, do you stop until the hurdle's moved? Or, do you find that it's much more fun to limbo under it? 

Are you a victim of your experiences or are you a survivor of your past?

I think that's all I have to say for now. Over to you. Agree or disagree, have an opinion. 

Laters...